Out of the closet before the shtf

[G.B]

After realizing that changes may be on the horizon for how we live I felt the need to tidy up my emotional and mental state in case of a shtf scenario as it was bogging me down.
The biggest thing to do was to come out to my wife. It was not a bolt out of the blue as she kinda knew I was half way there but she needed telling that I was actually gay. We agreed that I should move out in 1 year from now to give the kids time to adjust to the break up and that we will formerly separate then to give us both a chance of finding Mr right before we are any older.

Inevitably we came to the subject of prepping. We have agreed that we will continue as normal until I move out, then for me to start prepping there and assisting to keep things going here. If a problem arises then we stick to the plan we have now but obviously include any new partners that we might have.

I posted this as I feel it important to have a clear head and everything in order so to speak. Less stress if the shtf

[skippy]

Well done for you !

I sincerely hope you find your way through the "fall out" to a safe haven both mentally and physically.


If you ever need a shoulder drop me a Pm

Skippy

[hobo]

You know I've never included breaking up as a possible scenario in itself - thats got me thinking now.
Best of luck GB!

Hobo

[bigdan]

After realizing that changes may be on the horizon for how we live I felt the need to tidy up my emotional and mental state in case of a shtf scenario as it was bogging me down.
The biggest thing to do was to come out to my wife. It was not a bolt out of the blue as she kinda knew I was half way there but she needed telling that I was actually gay. We agreed that I should move out in 1 year from now to give the kids time to adjust to the break up and that we will formerly separate then to give us both a chance of finding Mr right before we are any older.

Inevitably we came to the subject of prepping. We have agreed that we will continue as normal until I move out, then for me to start prepping there and assisting to keep things going here. If a problem arises then we stick to the plan we have now but obviously include any new partners that we might have.

I posted this as I feel it important to have a clear head and everything in order so to speak. Less stress if the shtf

wow !!! very well done !! that took a lot of maturity and guts

[Le Mouse]

Well done for being so brave and also well done to the pair of you for both being so level headed about the future.

Very best of luck G.B

[G.B]

Thanks for the positive wishes. Like we all say it will be stressful enough in tough situations without carrying unnecessary baggage.

[Reservior]

Like we all say it will be stressful enough in tough situations without carrying unnecessary baggage.

Have you considered a more sensible BOB and upping your EDC?

Joking aside - and it was meant as a joke!

Discounting any kind of SHTF scenario it must be hard to have lived the way that you were and in some ways it must be nice to have a weight lifted from your shoulders by being honest with yourself and those you love. Though I'm sure the details of working it out with your wife and the kids must be difficult.

I can only add to what others have said and say well done, or congratulations, or whatever. I'm glad you posted though. I did something similar, well, in that the post was quite personal, and I also received a 'virtual' hug. In some cases 'virtual hugs' are just as good, in some circumstances as, if your feeling vulnerable, anything positive is reassuring. I only hug my family, so the most I'm comfortable with is a 'virtual' handshake you are very welcome to one of those.

I don't see anyone's religion, gender, sexuality or race, etc as being a barrier to survival.

[hobo]

We really need 'like' buttons - or maybe 'hug' buttons - on here!

[TorNicho]

I takes a lot of gusto to come out after such an established life, but I'm sure you're prepared.

We really need 'like' buttons - or maybe 'hug' buttons - on here!

With this, I agree, I can never find the feeling I wish to convey.

[Arzosah]

GB, good for you and congratulations on how you and your wife dealt with the immediate fallout, that takes courage, maturity and levelheadedness in both of you.

And, as Hobo said, changes in relationships are still going to happen, even if tshtf - but we have very different expectations from what our ancestors had 300-400 years ago, in feudal/mainly subsistence times, when marriage was economic - it took work that was allocated to both sexes to make a household function - I don't think we'll sink back to a feudal level, but extended families of the type you describe - yes, those are much more do-able in the times ahead.

As well as sorting out your own life, you've given us lots of food for thought. Thank you, GB